What does it take to get clear about any aspect of your life? Whether it’s your work, your relationships, your living situation or simply the way you spend your time, the process requires slowing down and listening and observing what’s working and what isn’t. But it also requires taking away the embellishments and fantasies we have around our situations so that we can actually see them as they are rather than as we want them to be.

Facing what is head on without our illusions, stories and projections ain’t easy, my friends. The stripped down version of life can be a bit harsh. However, until we really see what we’re working with, measuring the pros and cons, strengths and weaknesses, we don’t really know what we’re working with.

Denial is an insidious part of life. It’s a survival mechanism most of us adopted early on to soften the hard blows that growing up in this world dealt us. But when we begin to trip over our own feet, it’s time to peel back the layers.

It helps to have someone with an objective perspective see those areas where we are blind….those little dark corners that pop into view as soon as they are brought into the light can be so eye opening. When are eyes and ears are open, we can gain insight and understanding so that we can move forward.

Getting clear is really the first step in any major undertaking. It is what allows us to make good decisions. So often we decide things based on impulse or an emotional whim without having the necessary clarity, bringing with it often disastrous results. This is not to say we shouldn’t use our intuition. Not at all. But rather, intuition coupled with intellegence equals wisdom. We need both. A balance of right and left brain thinking uses the full range of our capacity. One without the other creates imbalance.

Getting clear is about knowing what matters, owning it within our hearts and then expressing it. This level of certainty increase the odds tremendously that our choices will bring us the outcome we’re seeking. This is true whether you’re looking for a partner or marketing a business. If you put out mixed messages, you will get mixed results.