Groups are my thing!

Creative Alchemy Meetup Group - Seattle, WA

Creative Alchemy Meetup Group - Seattle, WA

I've been facilitating groups since 1989 beginning with my first writing group (Mothers Who Write) which I started in Minneapolis, MN. I placed a tiny ad in the newsletter for The Loft (Minneapolis's awesome community of writers) promoting my group. The response was overwhelming! Within a few days, I received calls from over 40 moms who were ecstatic that I was forming such a group! We met twice a month for a year. I moved back to NJ and started a similar group. That group grew into 10 groups and the name changed to Women Who Write. I was in LOVE! Groups became my thing. I started a monthly discussion group for women that lasted a few years called Her Time and then had a three-year run with a hugely successful monthly writers salon that was sponsored by the local library. From there came more groups and then classes, workshops, retreats and training. I had found a way to balance the solitude of writing with the community love fest of the group experience.

Since I'm currently living in Asheville, NC, I have a number of Meetup Groups and Coaching Groups planned for 2017. Details coming soon!

I intuitively sense what people need. I don’t have an agenda when I run a group. I make the context sacred, so that people feel safe and can trust each other. I also hold the space for each person in the group as well as the group as a whole. What that means is that I’m tuned into each person’s needs as well as the group collectively so that I’m sensing what the needs are. If someone’s restless, I sense that; if someone’s bored, I sense that; if someone’s resistant and their arms are crossed, I sense that. I watch body language; I watch lots of clues. If someone’s intimidated to share, I might invite them to share because I know when you share, even a little, you feel more a part of the group. There’s a lot of nurturing and caretaking that goes on that is somewhat invisible to members of the group. I do it in a subtle way. It’s about managing the flow and creating balance. Not talking too much and making sure others have a chance to share in a fair way.
— VF